Who Are You, Really? Deep Questions for Couples

Who Are You, Really?

Are you looking to enhance your love life with thought provoking conversations? Ignite deep personal conversations and strengthen emotional connections? Perhaps you simply want to rest assured that you and your partner share the same core values.

I feel that so many conversations are superficial and lack depth. Of course there’s a time and place for small talk… but considering you landed yourself on this page it’s safe to assume you’re beyond that now.

Below is a list of questions for couples guaranteed to spice up any date night.

TIPS

Whatever direction the conversation goes, follow it! This is meant to be a guide with no strict order to follow. Answer some questions, don’t answer others. Pick the one’s that resonate with you most.

Try to avoid planning out your response while the other is answering. Be fully present in the moment and listen to what your partner has to say. Hearing someone speak and listening are actually quite different.

It goes without saying that cell phones ought to be put away for this!

Pour yourself a glass of wine, or don’t.

Have fun!

THE FOLLOWING IS A LIST OF QUESTIONS & PROMPTS:

1. What do you see as the biggest obstacle holding you back?

2. Do you believe there is only one definition of success or is it a subjective concept? What is your definition of success? What early relationship, experience or external influence shaped this belief system?

3. Do you believe that everything happens for a reason?

4. If you had no financial incentive, what career would you pursue?

5. How do you measure happiness? Rate or evaluate your subjective well being

6. Is it okay to lie to protect yourself?

7. What’s one piece of advice you’d give to your younger self?

8. What values and traits do you value most in a life long partner?

9. Can you recall a time in your life you were a victim of bullying?

10. Is the active pursuit of happiness positive or counterproductive?

11. Do you have regrets? (elaborate on one, or don’t)

12. Is it better to be a jack of all trades or master of one?

13. What mistakes have you made in previous relationships that you’ve learned from?

14. The five love languages are ways in which we express and receive love. What is yours? Acts of Service, Words of Affirmation, Physical Touch, Quality Time, Gifts Received

15. What personality trait do you love most about yourself?

16. Part 1: True or False – I can forgive someone who doesn’t deserve to be forgiven. Part 2: Do you believe forgiveness sets you free?

17. Does love last forever?

18. What’s the best and worst advice you’ve ever received?

19. Is Creativity an Innate talent or can it be learned?

20. Visualize your future best self. Describe what skills they’ve mastered or qualities they possess that you have yet to develop.

21. When you’re old and look back on your life, what do you think you’ll be most proud of?

22. What toxic trait do you believe you possess?

23. What do you think is the biggest mistake parents make when raising children?

24. What are your greatest fears?

25. What is the difference between living and existing?

26. List your guilty pleasure or vices.

27. What are some embarrassing things you do? What’s the most embarrassing thing that could happen to you?

28. Which of your family members or friends do you think I’d like most and why?

29. Do you believe in second or third chances? Under what circumstances?

30. What gets you excited about life presently and for the future?